If you blame “it was a phase” for the you listened to hardcore/ heavy music, then you clearly never enjoyed the music you were just craving attention. I dislike it when family and friends say “it’s a phase and she will grow out that stupid music”. That “stupid music” you think I listen to, those people that sing it, understand what people like me have gone through. They understand more than anyone in my family could have. It’s not just a phase when you can relate to these people and what they have gone through and what they have to say. Don’t ever say to someone it’s just a phase when you don’t understand or comprehend what they are going through, you’ll just come off as a sadistic asshole.